Web Platform: FTDI PIC reset
If you don't want to reset the PIC manually every time you flash it with the bootloader, you can solder a wire from pin 2 (FTDI chip) to MCLR on the reset button. This way the FTDI chip can reset the PIC.
It's my (megabug) private hack, so nothing official, but I have been using it for some time now with external power, usb power, usb power supply (no PC) and have never run into trouble with this. I can even flash the PIC using my PICkit2. So this should be safe for you. If you run into trouble, please add details here!
The settings for ds30loader:
I hope this is useful for someone. A friend of mine is using this mod on his Web platform and is very happy with it.